“Sorry, gotta go!” It’s a phrase we usually reserve for awkward parties or bad dates, not for leaving a job where we’ve built relationships and routines. But sometimes, it has to be said… especially when staying is costing you your peace of mind.
Let’s talk about it, babe.
There comes a point when the job you once appreciated becomes a daily emotional drain. You might still enjoy chatting with your coworkers or bonding over shared frustrations, but none of that should outweigh how you truly feel when it’s time to clock in.
When You Feel It in Your Gut (and Your Chest)
Here are some subtle and not-so-subtle signs that it’s time to pack your bag and reclaim your peace:
- You cry before work. Not occasionally, but regularly. The anxiety hits the night before, and by morning, you’re either wiping tears or faking a smile.
- You’re fantasizing about a drink just to decompress from the day. When “I need a cocktail” becomes a coping mechanism, your body is begging for relief. But if you’re in recovery, this is a dangerous thought to have. This type of thinking can lead to relapse if you entertain the thoughts long enough.
- You dread Sunday nights so much it ruins your entire weekend. That emotional hangover from the work week is real.
- You’ve tried speaking up or asking for changes, but nothing changes.
- And perhaps the hardest of all: you love your coworkers. They’re good people, and you worry that leaving means letting them down or leaving them behind in the mess. Trust me, I get it. However, being loyal to people at the expense of your own well-being is not noble. It’s self-abandonment. You deserve more than survival mode.
How to Say It Without Burning Bridges
You don’t have to storm out or air all your grievances. There are respectful, honest ways to say it isn’t working anymore, such as:
- “At this point in my career, I’m ready for new challenges that align more with my goals and values.”
- “I’ve appreciated the experience here, but I’ve realized it’s time to focus on opportunities that support my mental and emotional wellness.”
Please just keep it brief, direct, and centered on you, rather than focusing on your boss, coworkers, or frustrations.
When You’re Ready to Go
When it’s time to leave, leave with grace:
- Give proper notice (typically two weeks).
- Finish your projects or leave them in good shape.
- Offer to train a replacement, if possible.
- Say thank you, but also say goodbye.
You don’t owe an explanation to everyone. Protect your peace, not your reputation, in a place that’s harming you.
Your Peace is the Priority
It’s okay to outgrow a job. It’s OK to say, “This isn’t for me anymore.” It’s more than OK to choose you over toxic loyalty. As someone who’s had to walk away even when it was hard, I promise, the relief on the other side is worth it. So, if your job is stealing your joy and clouding your mind, repeat after me: “Sorry, gotta go.”
Have you ever left a job that drained you emotionally? Please share your experience in the comments. Let’s start a conversation about protecting our peace and choosing ourselves. 💬🧘🏽♀️💪🏽
With Love,
💋NR
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